Moved!

No more blogging here!

End of this phase!

Moved to:

http://misschua.blogspot.com

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person, it's learning to love the person you found.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse / partner . You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit).

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... Because it's happening TO YOU .

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria(excitement) of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies , instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love.. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy And most importantly, it takes WISDOM . You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage. Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships.

Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can "make" love.

A day of Fishball Girl

Just came back from Joey's wedding chalet from Pasir Ris, the place is kind of "ulu" to me as it's quite deep inside Elias Road, actually any place that don't belong to the north sounds "ulu" to me, haha. I am a mountain tortoise from Yishun and I am proud of it, hoho! She is actually one of my staff and the thing I want to mention is that she's 24, which is also my age! Seriously, I still cant imagine me getting married at this stage of my life, it feels so weird for me to think that I am someone's wife. Scary!!

But for my dear friends, you all can get married soon ya, cause I can't wait to attend my buddies' wedding! Haha!

Back to something more demoralising, work is ... ... once again speechless.

D'julz at Zouk

Was at Zouk last night to celebrate Wilfred's 30th birthday and also to catch D'julz as well. As usual it was mingster's recommendation as mingster is very into tech house and D'julz has been a DJ/producer he's been into since the early days of his DJ-ing. He plays quite alot of D'julz's productions. But yesterday night Zouk was pretty empty, we were guessing probably it's due to the opening of Butterfactory + the many other parties going on last nite, haha.

Back to my rantings, recently I've got so much shits to complain to my friends and just bitching non-stop. But I just couldn't help it, it's like the actions of those people are just intolerable and disgusting and gross and yucks and shitty and ...... (it really can goes on and on).

I am freaking tired and feeling shitty cause I lost my two precious off day (Yesterday's a PH + Sat's my off day) due to some reason which is not supposed to be my problem, but end up somehow it became my problem.

Ok, actually I am not sure whether you guys understand what I have written, I can't/ won't/ don't want to describe it in details but one thing for sure is it's freaking irritating.

Cam-whore pics from Zouk :

Plain fucking mood

I am out to suffer.

Back for suffering too.

Paris Hilton's My New BFF

Peeps!

If you all like bimbo, no brainer tv show like I do, such as America next top model or Project Runway etc, I've got a new ( not exactly very new) one to recommend you guys!

Paris Hilton's My New BFF! I would rate this the most bimbotic and lame among the ones I have watched, but still it's not a bad choice for passing time. By the way, I spent a full whole sunday to watch it, non-stop marathon, haha. I know I am hopeless.

That's why I told you I am getting dumber.

"TTYN" (After watching it, you will know what it means, haha)

The link to watch it online:

http://www.mtv.com/ontv/dyn/parisbff/videos-full-episodes.jhtml

It's not as easy as it seems, so shut your mouth.

Work has been.. what should I say.. speechless.

Looking/ playing with him makes me happy, my cutest sai boi.

I think I'm going insane, starting to talk to non-living things.

I'm getting dumber.

My face is rotting. Real bad.

My complexion is so damn jialat, scars all over, it's like never ending pimples popping out. Ahhhhhhhh...!! Rotting rotting rotting.. Super demoralised.

Trimmed my hair.

Bought Katjes Jellies.

Bought Coco Chex and HL milk.

New notebook for the year.

Above photo by mingster.

Just another rotting day with a ROTTEN face of mine!!!

The weather is killing me!

Why is the weather so hot??!? For the past whole week, the weather is so hot and humid and suffocating! It's like the air blowing out from the fan is warm and even after your shower, within 5 mins you will start feeling sticky again. ARGH!!

What has the world become to? Is this like some sort of global warming?

Save the earth. Save the earth.

Some of the few munchies I'm addicted to recently:

Katjes fruit Jellies! This is a new flavour that's brought in to Singapore. So far after trying so many flavours, I still prefer the raspberry hearts flavour! My all time favourite!

Japanese yeast bread that I bought from a mini mart at my house downstairs. It was surprisingly soft and yummy! The texture is indescribable, you really have to taste it to know what I am talking about.

A cadbury chocolate egg. Mingster bought it from the airport for me, he likes to buy new chocos for me to try out. =) So, the size of it is about an actual egg and I didn't know that there's fillings inside and it tastes like condensed milk, but what I want to say is that it's freaking sweet! Way too sweet! It felt as though after eating it, you are gonna have diabetes soon, haha.